Nympha Posted February 20, 2006 Report Share Posted February 20, 2006 Well....my ex refuses to send me any type of support or help with the children/car/food nothing. Just today my car started smoking a small bit and I got pulled over for visable emissions which is not allowed in this city. Course I cant afford insurance and only drive when I have to get kids to dr apts or whatever, so my car got towed for driving uninsured. I have to save up some 500.00 to get my car out of impound. Plus whatever to get it fixed, plus the ticket for driving uninsured which is close to 1k. So unfortunately, I ...simply dont know what is going to happen, if I will lose my apt or what. Hoping I dont lose my apt, cause I will be on the street. My kids have a place to stay, but I dont. So unless I get a miracle...I will be gone by beginning of this coming month. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ex-D&Der Posted February 20, 2006 Report Share Posted February 20, 2006 Maybe we could take up a collection for the $500? I would be willing to help you out. You should go through whatever legal channels are available to get the state to garnish your kids' fathers' wages. I'm sure he owes you child support. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nympha Posted February 20, 2006 Author Report Share Posted February 20, 2006 Problem with getting wages garnished is you have to pay an attorney. Trust me if I could have of, I would have of by now. But since he was not physically abusive I am looking at paying 2k for an attorney and I didnt/dont have that kind of money. When my ex left me, he left me with an autistic son, a six month old daughter, over 1k closer to 2k in unpaid utility bills, no food, no diapers for kids. I just recently got out of that debt and got my son in the programs and what not that I needed to for him to get situated. November hit me hard, I got jumped and ended up pregnant, only to miscarry in Januaryish. Got put in counciling after that and was just starting to be able to sleep at night from nightmares, so was able to start looking for a job. Got a job in Salem Oregon, which is an hours drive from my house and the state was going to pay for my insurance. But...no car now, means no job. So, I am going to apply at every fast food place near me, within walking distance cause a bus does not pass close to my house and do something to get out of this mess. Anything. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sarduarkar Posted February 20, 2006 Report Share Posted February 20, 2006 Wow. That's harsh. I dont have much, but i'd be willing to help out with what I have as well. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Goomf Posted February 20, 2006 Report Share Posted February 20, 2006 I'm pretty sure it's against the law for your ex to not pay child care support unless he loses his job/wage and can't support you. If he CHOOSES not to support you, go sue his slimy ***. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
wolfeman Posted February 20, 2006 Report Share Posted February 20, 2006 Sounds like it would be easier to start saving up for a hitman than to jump through all the hoops required to get him to pay. I'm really sorry that something like this would happen to you. If it means anything to you, I said a prayer for that miracle. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
English lad Posted February 20, 2006 Report Share Posted February 20, 2006 I'm in no way rich..but hell I'll help out if I can, you've had a rough hand dealt you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hegemon Posted February 20, 2006 Report Share Posted February 20, 2006 You've been dealt a bad hand, but you carry it with dignity and grace, as in all things. And though the Winter is cold, it passes to spring, and then summer. There is a season for all things, and you will find your face warmed by the glow of your family and friends when the darkness seems too much to bear. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Warpnow Posted February 20, 2006 Report Share Posted February 20, 2006 Do you have a paypal? Get one and I would bet people would help you out. I would. I mean, I am not rich or anything, but I would give you what I can. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Goomf Posted February 20, 2006 Report Share Posted February 20, 2006 Problem with getting wages garnished is you have to pay an attorney. Trust me if I could have of, I would have of by now. But since he was not physically abusive I am looking at paying 2k for an attorney and I didnt/dont have that kind of money. When my ex left me, he left me with an autistic son, a six month old daughter, over 1k closer to 2k in unpaid utility bills, no food, no diapers for kids. I just recently got out of that debt and got my son in the programs and what not that I needed to for him to get situated. November hit me hard, I got jumped and ended up pregnant, only to miscarry in Januaryish. Got put in counciling after that and was just starting to be able to sleep at night from nightmares, so was able to start looking for a job. Got a job in Salem Oregon, which is an hours drive from my house and the state was going to pay for my insurance. But...no car now, means no job. So, I am going to apply at every fast food place near me, within walking distance cause a bus does not pass close to my house and do something to get out of this mess. Anything. Hey, I'm sure there are some government sponsored programs for your situation. If not, there has to be some loopholes. When my father died, we got some help from the government, even though we had a decent amount of assets...just no income. Look around...talk to a consultant. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pali Posted February 20, 2006 Report Share Posted February 20, 2006 You've been dealt a bad hand, but you carry it with dignity and grace, as in all things. And though the Winter is cold, it passes to spring, and then summer. There is a season for all things, and you will find your face warmed by the glow of your family and friends when the darkness seems too much to bear. What are you, a telephone psychic? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ex-D&Der Posted February 20, 2006 Report Share Posted February 20, 2006 Do you have a paypal? Get one and I would bet people would help you out. I would. I mean' date=' I am not rich or anything, but I would give you what I can.[/quote'] Can you just send Paypal to an e-mail address? If so you can just post your e-mail address and I'll send you some money. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Iyorvin Posted February 20, 2006 Report Share Posted February 20, 2006 I dont' know about the states, but my mom had the same situation. Three kids, single, and getting no child support. In canada there is something called 'Maintenance', that is a government program you can deal with, that will do what is needed to have him either pay, or have it taken off his pay. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
-red- Posted February 20, 2006 Report Share Posted February 20, 2006 If it aint obvious, this community is here for you. That includes me. "In the depth of winter, I finally learned that there was within me an invincible summer." -Albert Camus Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ex-D&Der Posted February 20, 2006 Report Share Posted February 20, 2006 There should be some state services there for you to recover child support without hiring a lawyer. It may be understaffed and overburdened, so you have to do some work to find it, fill out the papers, and so forth, but you should be able to get some kind of process in motion. You could also try Legal Aid if you really need a lawyer but can't afford one. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
wolfeman Posted February 20, 2006 Report Share Posted February 20, 2006 I dont' know about the states' date=' but my mom had the same situation. Three kids, single, and getting no child support. In canada there is something called 'Maintenance', that is a government program you can deal with, that will do what is needed to have him either pay, or have it taken off his pay.[/quote'] We have the same thing in alimony/child support, except that the entire justice system is so broken that the only ones who are going to get the money are the ones who can afford to pay mad dog lawyers, which would mean that they have enough to not need the money. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Psycho Child Posted February 21, 2006 Report Share Posted February 21, 2006 There are attourney's that work for a percentage gained, so if you want to go for a lawsuit that would be the way to go. I would reccomend seeking legal recourse to get child support out of him, the government should take your side on this. There are alot of orginazations out there to help single mothers, I would look around in your area for them. If all else fails when I get my car fixed I'll come up there and kick *** for ya. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Warpnow Posted February 21, 2006 Report Share Posted February 21, 2006 Can you just send Paypal to an e-mail address? If so you can just post your e-mail address and I'll send you some money. You can, but it just gives them a link to setup a paypal account, I think, which will start with the momeny already given. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Goomf Posted February 21, 2006 Report Share Posted February 21, 2006 We have the same thing in alimony/child support' date=' except that the entire justice system is so broken that the only ones who are going to get the money are the ones who can afford to pay mad dog lawyers, which would mean that they have enough to not need the money.[/quote'] non profit lawyers. Alimony doesn't exist in most states. There are some efficiency and incentive issues with it. However, child care support exists in nearly EVERY state. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Iyorvin Posted February 21, 2006 Report Share Posted February 21, 2006 I like banana's. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Clifton Posted February 21, 2006 Report Share Posted February 21, 2006 that's a load of crap. the gov't should be helping you out more. it ain't fair for you that your ex gets off without a word. doing a quick google search, i find http://family-law.freeadvice.com/child_support/forced_payment.htm it seems like it wouldnt' be a bad idea to head to the local gov't office and talk to family services and see what advice they have for you. even though i don't play here, what you're going through is unjust. I'd help out as well. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
delfytheelfy Posted February 21, 2006 Report Share Posted February 21, 2006 I in no way support welfare, in most casses since in is abused, but in your case I say file, you are the perfect canadate, you should get $200 in food stamps a month per kid between 1-18 (and in school) also apply for WIC you will get 300-400 a month for an kid under 1. Also once you apply for that, you should ALSO get an emergency finds for about $250-500 depending on your case, plus another 300-500 a month for bills and such. Not only that, but ebcause you are applying for goverment AID the goverment will supply a lawyer to nail your ex husband to a wall. The reason they do this is ebcause they are paying for him, and they dont like that. Not only will they BEGIN charging, they will also make sure he pays back child support of no more the $10,000. I will also send what I can, someone start this shizzle up yo. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Psycho Child Posted February 21, 2006 Report Share Posted February 21, 2006 If you are in the U.S. go to your local Child Protective Services office, they will go after the husband for you, because what he is doing is legaly neglect. So says my prelaw girlfriend. Every state should have this. Child Protective Services should also be able to direct you to the local chapter of an organization that she forgets the name of that will provide temporary housing program for you and the kids. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nympha Posted February 21, 2006 Author Report Share Posted February 21, 2006 I in no way support welfare, in most casses since in is abused, but in your case I say file, you are the perfect canadate, you should get $200 in food stamps a month per kid between 1-18 (and in school) also apply for WIC you will get 300-400 a month for an kid under 1. Also once you apply for that, you should ALSO get an emergency finds for about $250-500 depending on your case, plus another 300-500 a month for bills and such. Not only that, but ebcause you are applying for goverment AID the goverment will supply a lawyer to nail your ex husband to a wall. The reason they do this is ebcause they are paying for him, and they dont like that. Not only will they BEGIN charging, they will also make sure he pays back child support of no more the $10,000. I will also send what I can, someone start this shizzle up yo. You came the closest to what I am dealing with. Its called welfare. I hate it hate it hate it. When I first went on the program they opened what they call a "grant" for 1k for the first month. I brought my bills and they allocated where my funds went and set me in a cheaper one bedroom apartment(which is still too much for me to afford) They opened my case got me free healthcare for me and my kids and gave me food stamps. Total welfare came to 500 a month where rent was 555 a month. Food stamps came to 400 a month, but you can not get anything but food with them else I would convert most of it to cash if I could. My son got put on SSI so they took him off of welfare and lowered my income to 400 a month and foodstamps to 200 a month. That is what really hit me. I cant pay bills with that. I have had my electricity turned off four times in the last six months cause I cant pay it, and each time they turn it off they charge me another 150.00 to turn it back on so it keeps on adding up. I just got a job in Salem, which would pay 3k a month for 30hrs a week, but just lost my car so I cant get to work. My ex is going to finally send me a little bit of money to try and get my car back but right now, I have 25.00 to last me the rest of the month. As for Child Support, I went through the state, ran through loops and red tape for three months to get told basically, they cant find my ex to make him pay child support when I gave them his address/phone number/Social security number. As long as they "cant find him" they cant force him to pay. I went to Legal Aid. They turned me away, since in this state, Legal aid is for those who are physically abused. I went to a attorney who worked based on my income, and they wanted me to put a downpayment of 500.00 and then pay the rest, which would have been 2k in monthly installments of 50.00 a month. With my current financial situation, I could not pay an extra 50 a month for a lawyer so I said screw it and have tried to make due with what I have. On the third of this month, I will get 1k in cash which will go to rent/electricity, leaving me with about 200 for the month which will go to insurance if I can get my car back. If I dont get my car back before 30 days is up, then I lose it completely since the state will just take it, on top of hoping to god I can win the contestation when I take my ticket to court. I have had good luck with judges in Oregon so far when it comes to traffic tickets but seems my luck is slowly running out. Bad time to run out the ticket is 500.00. I am about to just give up the car, but it is a 6k car. Nice '91 Lexus. Every day that my car sits in impound another 35-50 a day gets added to the bill that I owe to get it back. Ex D&DER told me to put my e-mail address for anyone who wants to chip in so I will. Any amount of assistance would be welcome, and I owe you all already so much for your moral support. So here it is.. NymphaPrincesa@comcast.net Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nympha Posted February 21, 2006 Author Report Share Posted February 21, 2006 If you are in the U.S. go to your local Child Protective Services office' date=' they will go after the husband for you, because what he is doing is legaly neglect. So says my prelaw girlfriend. Every state should have this. Child Protective Services should also be able to direct you to the local chapter of an organization that she forgets the name of that will provide temporary housing program for you and the kids.[/quote'] Temporary housing is a joke in this state. There are so many people who want temporary housing that it is a five to six year wait to get into temporary housing and I sure as hell do NOT want to wait five to six years just to get into a cheap house, since I will be out of this situation by then. No matter how Negligent he is, and how much I could go after him for abandonment, it is not possible to do any time soon due to the massive back up the system has in t his state. I have been trying for six months at the least so far and nothing. My parents finally payed 2k to get an attorney to make him pay child support, but we are still looking at at three month wait to get it all processed properly if he does not contest. Which he of course will for the soul purpose of making it take up to six months to do. Trust me, I have looked into this deeeeeply with this state, but our government situation is really ****ty right now. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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