Imoutgoodbye Posted May 27, 2011 Report Share Posted May 27, 2011 Before anyone says anything, I'll still be continuing with my CMT projects. However, I need a short break from this particular forum and the game. I do wear glasses and I may be a little near sighted, but the negativity levels here have been on the rise lately. It's affecting me in the game and in real life. I don't need any extra stress right now, so I'm cutting out the portions I don't have to look at. It is my sincerest wish that everyone could get along. That we could all approach each other as intelligent adults. We're all aware each of us has a bias, but this does not mean each of us is always representing that bias nor does it mean each of us should be representing our bias. Holding onto beliefs because they are tried and true methods does not make them the best methods. In the same tone, changing a tried and true method does not always yield a better or equal outcome. We all have something to contribute here. It's the spirit of collaboration that will help us rise up and be better. I've never seen a staff as supportive as ours. I would like to see a player base that quibbles less. The spirit of collaboration is not the spirit of collaboration until certain conditions are met. For there to be a successful spirit in the House of FL, the following criteria need to be met: 1. We must be willing to listen to each other. Not just defend our positions and try to riddle the other person's thoughts, but find the strength in the other persons idea. The other person has already began step 2. 2. Submit our own ideas. Not to defend our own positions, but to let others examine and find the strengths of our ideas. We must work as a whole to bring each idea to its greatest capabilities before we simply discard it. Only as a whole should we discard an idea. 3. Consider ourselves peers. Not one of us is better than another. We all have something to contribute. As each of us picks up an idea of another to help shape and mold it, not destroy it. We are here to help each other. Not tear ourselves down. The only structure we have is that the staff run the game. They are, however, dispelling the authoritative illusion to assist us in our endeavors because we all want the same thing and are thus peers in the sense of Paulo Friere's student-teachers and teacher-students. If we start here, with the spirit of collaboration within the House of FL, we will see growth into other areas of this forum. We will begin to see respect and courtesy. We start first with the Ideas and Suggestions. Be well and blessed be, Aabahran. Until we meet next. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Twinblades713 Posted May 28, 2011 Report Share Posted May 28, 2011 See you in eleven minutes, Rev. Blessed be. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
-red- Posted May 28, 2011 Report Share Posted May 28, 2011 Many of you will probably just read over this, but I think Valek has an excellent point. Community is a very important part of anything we take part in, and we should all consider our affect on the community and each other when we post and play. Speaking personally, the negative attitudes and how we treat each other on the forums lead to me leaving for a year. I think it's safe to assume it's been a catalyst in the divorce of many members of our family over the years. Ideas like the famed 'harden up princess' are taken out of context and invoked on people with genuine concerns as a way to shut them up. I think that we could all benefit from the understanding that our method of dealing with people or situations may not be the best for someone else. I think we must remember that the words we see here are people expressing themselves in a place where they (should) feel at home. We must remember that what and how we say things does, in fact, have a large effect on some of us. Years of enjoyment can be stripped away by the actions of a few - and before you say 'tough ****, that's your problem' take a moment and consider that that mentality may just be the problem. We're not all hardasses, and we should all be shown/show respect, regardless of how you feel about somebody. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tassinvegeta Posted May 28, 2011 Report Share Posted May 28, 2011 Harden up Princess Just kidding. But seriously you're absolutely right. However the problem is that everyone has different personalities and even less are mature enough to understand this. Try visiting the forums of popular games such as WOW and you'll notice perhaps an even harsher environment. As much as we try things can never be perfect so we're probably gonna have to accept some bad apples. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Liadon Xiloscient Posted May 28, 2011 Report Share Posted May 28, 2011 I'm the worst I'm sorry. I'll leave so you can come back. T__T *misses Valik badly already* I hope you can come back soon friend. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Demiterracotta Posted May 28, 2011 Report Share Posted May 28, 2011 Anonymity is a too often excuse used to disrespectful behavior. I agree that other forums are just as/if not more harsh than these here. But there are also THOUSANDS of posters on there, the concentration is different. One part jackass to one hundred parts civil is much better than 12 parts jackass to 15 parts civil. And I am fairly certain that Valek's point is a poignant reminder to everyone that we cannot afford to be losing people or alienating possible visitors over the wording we use or the arguments we all participate in. This isn't the age of "They'll be back." this is the age of "We value our fell players because we want to see more than eight people logged in." Just a couple pennies for the stack. We'll miss you Valek, hopefully you'll be back in action soon. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Imoutgoodbye Posted May 28, 2011 Author Report Share Posted May 28, 2011 It's not just that we are tearing each other down, but we've missed opportunities. We've missed ideas and innovations because an idea was thrown away too early over something egotistical or a false sense of "wrong". before the idea had a chance to become a greater idea and grow into an even greater idea than that. I can't make anyone do anything, but I can hope that people will carefully read my post and think about collaborative learning. That we are all different and that's great! We each have something to offer and if we embrace each other and work with each other, willingly, we'll see something grow from it that wasn't there before. I'm sick of looking at the real world and the world around me and knowing that there are too many who don't see the passings I grieve for that become lost under politics, greed, egotism...the list could go on, but it's perspective based. The word negativity means something different to everyone, but all respect the word as a label that's harmful. Unwanted. Knowing that people are reading this, considering it, and putting thought into it warms my heart. I'll add a new signature, but no avatar yet. I'm still watching, still listening. Show me you're listening, Aabahran. Bring me back. Bring back our lost Brothers and Sisters. Reach out to each other. We are family. Silent Hill 2: Restless Dreams Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Liadon Xiloscient Posted May 28, 2011 Report Share Posted May 28, 2011 Well if it means anything... I got my one long time girlfriend to try out our MUD. She and I started to really write together on the same forum and for the longest time we fought to see "who could write the better post". It was fun and one day I sent her a text say, "hey what MMO's do you play?" she responded with all the typical MMO's peeps play now days and then I was like, "Forsaken Lands is where its at yo!" then she was like, "Oh? Let me check it out." Then through texts I walked her into our little get away. I felt accomplished. You're the glue that keeps us together Valek, no matter what peeps say about you. You ARE that ONE voice of reason that says, "Can we all just stop fighting for a sec?" I adore you 110% not just for that but for the way you are as a person. If you leave all of us will be left with just one side of the Velcro and we all know two fuzzy sides don't stick. Please I want you HERE! I'll try to help to make this place more friendly without posting hater be hating posts. I'll keep it positive for you and the community. Cause I love you wiff meh whole heart! XOXO to the Valek-Taicho! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Crypticant Posted May 31, 2011 Report Share Posted May 31, 2011 You see, Reverend Valek, tomorrow is harvest day, and to them, it is the holocaust. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Croyvern Posted May 31, 2011 Report Share Posted May 31, 2011 Many of you will probably just read over this' date=' but I think Valek has an excellent point. Community is a very important part of anything we take part in, and we should all consider our affect on the community and each other when we post and play.[/quote'] <3 this, thanks Red. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
EyeSeeU Posted June 1, 2011 Report Share Posted June 1, 2011 I only hope you will stay, even if it's not because your a better person, but perhaps because you make a lot of us better people. Valek, I don't know much..., but I know I LUV you, and that may be all I need to know! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mali Posted June 1, 2011 Report Share Posted June 1, 2011 Toughen up, Princess! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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