What would you do?

[The Greased Weasel]

PS: Totaly do the DNA stuff if you can get away with it and have the $$$. Good Luck.

Assuming you dont mind breaking the law. To go the DNA route both parties must be consentual

[Baby Hippo]

Oprah or Marty or those other shows might help a bit (shrug).

I say just poke at her memory of what she did do... where she was at... if you can do that you can probably find one person that was there and question the third party of who she was with.

And about that diary thing ect, do you really think right after sex you are going to get up and right it into your diary (you are relaxed and usually not worried about anything).

Abortion should not be an option in this case because abortion would be killing the baby. I think the only reason abortion should be an open case is if either the baby or the mother's life is at risk with the child. Which by my own thought it's not.

Finally, (No offense meant Nympha), If you are living in a place like that, and stuff like that happens this often... You should TRY to find a better place to live. I know you are short on cash and such so i don't say LEAVE or anything like that, but if you can possibly move... try to do it.

If all the above doesn't work, Go to the guys that you think are possibly the dad (ask her who she would have sex with and start with them) and ask them about it.

[mya]

The idea is to have the notebook at all times so that you can make a quick escape to the Bathroom and take a note pre doing it.

Pos act it would be forgetfull.

[WagesofSin]

Look bro. I went through this same **** my entire life. I'm the child that, if up to you, would have killed. Real fair buddy..........I was in existance, swimming in the womb, having a ball, and you'd flush me down the toilet due to what you deem unappropriate for a child to be in? She has the chance to find out who the father is, I'll never have that chance, hell I don't even know his name.

Now, I do realize I opened myself up to some huge critisism, but do realize my life is great. Sure, I've had to struggle, but now I'm in university, fully independant, and alot more tolerant to the situations around me. I say go for it, it'll make her life feel blessed, hell it saved my Moms.

Peace.

No offense meant, but that doesn't mean anything to this discussion. Just because YOU liked YOUR life doesn't validate nor invalidate abortion. Just like if someone else came on and said that they are unhappy about their life and wished their parents had an abortion would not validate nor invalidate abortion.

You are lucky you enjoy your life, don't waste it, not everyone is so fortunate.

Just an observation.

[Mudder]

Oprah or Marty or those other shows might help a bit (shrug).

This sounds more like a job for Jerry Springer.

[Grappler]

I'm calling work.

[Malchaeius]

Soultion: Tell the honest truth. If no one fesses up and she cannot take care of the child - put him or her up for adoption.

[brsingr]

I would say abortion, but they made me watch these videos with a bunch of ripped up fetuses in a dumpster, behind the abortion clinic, and I feel like a real bastard, for ever supporting it, and now I'm all for adoption.

[Nympha]

Ok, guys. The point of this was not how to deal with the baby. I am PRO-LIFE and so is she. Abortion is -NOT- an option.

Someone here said, and I am not going to go look up who and quote it, but that this was an all male forum and therefor not the best place to ask. That is exactly why I posted here because it is a majority male forum.

How would you deal in this situation if some girl came up to you who was your friend asking if you and she had sex and she didnt know who it was due to TEMPORARY memory loss? How would you want her to ask or how would you want her to find out that would not hurt your feelings or get you all defensive.

Again this is -NOT- about what to do with the baby. We know if she can not take care of the child it will go up for adoption but abortion is -NOT- an option nor do I want it to be a debate about the rights or wrongs of abortion. I know some will be pro-choice, some will be pro-life. I dont care about that cause I know what she and I both beleive in.

Thanks

[Fiere]

First off, I never would have had sex with her in the first place, for religious reasons (not before I'm married), but that aside...I would not be offended at all. Not in the slightest. And if it was me, I would be all for doing anything I could to help out and be a father to the kid. Shoot, even without the religion thing, I'd probably be interested in a long term relationship anyway, if I had sex with the girl, so it wouldn't be that much of an issue. I'd hope that she would ask me one on one, privately, however.

[Malchaeius]

I would think that she is a whore for not remembering who she had sex with. That is until she explained to me her situation caused by trauma. Then I would be sympathetic to her. Now, if I was the male friend who had intercourse with her, I would fess up to it and ask her how she plans to proceed and what I can do to help. If I was not the one who impregnated her, I would let her know and keep an ear open for any information as to who it was.