Celerity Posted July 9, 2014 Report Share Posted July 9, 2014 I've been dating my boyfriend for over four years now. This last year, we got engaged and I came back to the US to set up visa stuff, work, and save money. After a brutal year, tomorrow is the day he'll finally return to me (from China) and we'll get married. He is in Hong Kong now at a hotel. His plane leaves shortly. Except.. After he arrived in Hong Kong, somebody texted him. They met and had sex and she asked him to stay. He agreed that I wasn't the true love (nor is she, for that matter) and informed me. He apologized and went back to sleep. He won't be getting on the flight that is departing in about an hour. I'm somewhat broken, and since I don't use social media, I guess this is my social outlet. My physical one may be beating viciously on my partner in my mma class this afternoon. Thanks for reading. Celerity Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Implementor Erelei Posted July 9, 2014 Implementor Report Share Posted July 9, 2014 There's nothing one can say to console you about what happened. I can say I recently had something similar happen to me, except I was already married. It was devastating for me. I know it means nothing, but be happy that it didn't happen after you got married to him. All the same, I have a bunch of empathy for you. I'm sad this happened. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Implementor Anume Posted July 9, 2014 Implementor Report Share Posted July 9, 2014 As brutal as it is, better you find out now than later. Wish you strength to get through that mess. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
f0xx Posted July 9, 2014 Report Share Posted July 9, 2014 What the two of them said. Better now than later. Now to the more important stuff - when do I take you out for a date my blond angel? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Clavo Posted July 9, 2014 Report Share Posted July 9, 2014 I had divorced a couple years ago, time and company you keep are the two major healers. Us men can be mean but who knows, sometimes people go looking for greener pastures and they realize they should have just watered their own lawn. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Magick Posted July 9, 2014 Report Share Posted July 9, 2014 I'm ashamed to admit it, but I too, was in similar situation, only I was in his shoes. With that knowledge, it's my opinion he should be slapped around the head until you feel better. Better now than latter. It's said often but for good reason. While it may absolutely suck now, it may very well be for the best. And I'm sure I speak for everyone here when I say that if you need this outlet, we're here to listen and you have all our best wishes for you, ready and willing to help you pick up the pieces in any way we can. As for your MMA partner, give 'em a heads up before you beat the shit out of them? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Implementor Volgathras Posted July 9, 2014 Implementor Report Share Posted July 9, 2014 I'll go the more emotional route; may the gods see fit to curse the swine with crotch rot, then throw him under a bus.If they fail, hone those mma skills skills in the event he's stupid enough to show his face. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The-Nameless Posted July 9, 2014 Report Share Posted July 9, 2014 Wanna get together for a coffee? This may sound insensitive, but the point is to gain a laugh. Im going through something very similar, and I know it hurts. I am pretty much an absolute train wreck. I really cannot express how actually sorry I am, because I cannot comprehend how depressed I myself am over the same scenario. I won't bother telling you it gets better, but it does get easier. Every day you will hurt a bit less, and smile a bit more. You will stop seeing them everywhere (I really fucking hope). I wish you the best Celerity, as this is not something I wish on anyone. I hope your able to get back to being you, without a bottle (I am still working on this) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cephirus Posted July 10, 2014 Report Share Posted July 10, 2014 As the others, you have my sympathies. Never have I known such heartache and pain than that delivered by the betrayal of those you love. I hope you find some positive outlets, like your MMA, to help you work through it. And please try and talk about it as much as you can bare. Although it will hurt to talk about it, I promise in the end it will help. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Enethier Posted July 10, 2014 Report Share Posted July 10, 2014 I don't know you all that well, but my heart still aches for you. I've been there before, and I'm so sorry you have to experience it. If you need a stranger to talk to and unload on, my inbox is open. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dale Posted July 10, 2014 Report Share Posted July 10, 2014 I'll get a coffee with you Nameless. But I won't give it up unless it's a vinti! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Professor Posted July 10, 2014 Report Share Posted July 10, 2014 "the ultimate revenge is living well and being happy" which is just grand when you find your way to that point... till then, do whatever it takes to cope... whether that's finding solace in the company of friends and family or a guy that ruins your lipstick instead of your mascara. wishing you all the best. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dead Voodoo Doll Posted July 10, 2014 Report Share Posted July 10, 2014 spend time with friends, spend time alone. time heals all wounds. like some of the others have said, it was better it happened now and not 13 years in. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pali Posted July 11, 2014 Report Share Posted July 11, 2014 *hugs* What a frakking idiot he is... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dale Posted July 11, 2014 Report Share Posted July 11, 2014 Pali, where you been!? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pali Posted July 11, 2014 Report Share Posted July 11, 2014 *shrugs* I've been keeping an eye on the place off and on, just haven't felt that any subjects needed my input. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
inscribed Posted July 13, 2014 Report Share Posted July 13, 2014 That's a pretty terrible thing to have happen, but I think Anume is right. Let that inner fire giant out for a while, but try not to kill anyone. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mali Posted July 13, 2014 Report Share Posted July 13, 2014 This guy was probably sleeping around the whole time. Sorry to hear that you have been betrayed. Not as bad as when griffith betrayed gattsu, but I know it hurts just the same. The biggest loss is the amount of your time he wasted with false promises. Now you know what it feels like to be conned by someone who knows how to do it in the worst way. I know a guy who fell in love like this and his partner went through with the marriage. It wasn't until a year later that he found out that he married someone with a fake identity. He realized it just after he noticed his bank accounts had been entirely depleted and she was gone - just like that - on a fast boat to the eastern bloc. I know this might not help, but when you cool down, consider that inscribed would never have done this to you. He has a working knowledge of the brambus technology shop and knows where all the shrines are located. These characteristics, when paired with a childlike innocence, dog like loyalty, and mass holdings in bitcoin make him a worthwhile companion for future adventures. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Aulian Posted July 21, 2014 Report Share Posted July 21, 2014 Hi Cel, Wow that is crazy. Terribly sorry to hear that love. We all know you're strong enough to get through this, remember he's just proven he was never worthy of you to start with. Love is not a whim. Love is not a flower that fades with a few fleeting years. Love is a choice wedded to action, your husband/wife will choose you every day for the rest of thier life. I think its better you know now that he's not ready or able to make that choice. Anything you need dont hesitate to hit me up x Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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