Balgashang Posted July 9, 2006 Report Share Posted July 9, 2006 So my boy is enlisting, he ships out on monday, the tenth, and last night we had a party for him, went to the strip club etc. Got back to the place where we were crashing, and I happen to be in love with my boy's sis. She was there, with this dude she used to date, and has known for ten + years. He never drinks, he drinks a bit, gets ****ed up, and she ends up taking care of him most of the night, when ****'s finally winding down, she decides to bounce with dude and his sis. I of course, being completely inebriated, make a smart *** comment like of course your goin to bounce, why did i expect anything else. I dunno whether it pissed her off or not, but i do feel guilty about it. I hardly get to see chic lately, she's the reason I took a hiatus from FL in the first place. To be completely honest, I was jealous dude was gettin all of her attention. Do ANY of you have any advice on how to curb jealously? I know its my fault, but its something I want to work on, this girl means more to me then anything else in this world, but I dunno, it just pisses me off that I don't get to spend the time I would like to with her, I know she has alot of **** going on, her bro and one of my best friends leaving on monday, her baby's daddy BS, and this douche that's her friend and used to be her ex. I know I'm being selfish, but I'll be damned if I know how to fix the short comings in my own personality. I'm not even sure if I've explained myself well or not, its about 7 am where I am, I've been drinking since 7 pm the night before, about ready to pass the **** out. Vodka and Redbulls, Screwdrivers, beeer bongs, I'm not even sure how I managed to make it home alright, I guess I'm just kinda at a loss, or feeling lost, and just looking for some GOOD advice. J Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TheNewGuy Posted July 9, 2006 Report Share Posted July 9, 2006 well... don't drink, and you wont do those things you regret for years, just coz you got drunk one night. thats my 2 cents. but I guess that's a little late now... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
elfdude Posted July 9, 2006 Report Share Posted July 9, 2006 Only one answer: beat the dudes *** lolololol Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
myrek Posted July 9, 2006 Report Share Posted July 9, 2006 tell her what you are thinking... sober Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Fiere Posted July 9, 2006 Report Share Posted July 9, 2006 Word. Don't drink, or at least not that heavily around people you care about that deeply. Go apologize, but more than that, talk it out with her, explain how you feel. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lethereal Posted July 9, 2006 Report Share Posted July 9, 2006 From a female point of view, I have a few things to say: 1. Jealous men suck. No woman wants a clingy guy that gets all pissy when she is talking to someone else or spending time with someone else. The more clingy you are, the more you are going to push her away. I recommend you act like you don't care. The less you care, the more she'll notice. One of those drive-you-nuts games of dating, but hey, what can you do? 2. Drunk men suck (and are really gross). There is NOTHING more disgusting than some guy coming up to you slurring his words with that icky sour breath reeking of stale alcohol and/or cigarettes (why is it people seem to breathe on your face when their drunk?). And no guy looks hot with bleary eyes half mast from being drunk. *shudder* Common excuse ---> You say, "No, but I'm fun when I'm drunk and everyone loves me." Truth ----> No...that isn't the case. You just THINK everyone loves you and that you're fun. There is a 99.9% chance that you are really just being very obnoxious but are so drunk you think everyone thinks you're funny. In closing, get over it and cut back - that's the best advice I can give you. P.S. I am SO glad I'm out of the dating game... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Balgashang Posted July 9, 2006 Author Report Share Posted July 9, 2006 Heh I do appreciate the advice, the guy thats supposed to be guarding the gate between my brain and tongue had just took a siesta in that moment. Mostly because last night was the third time we were supposed to hang out this week, twice at parties for her bro, once me and her at her crib and mine and her plans that we had made got disrupted because this ex/good friend of hers keeps showing up, then literally acts like her shadow, follows her around constently. Its like when the three of us end up in some public setting, me and her almost end up acting like strangers, cause I go up and give her a hug, dude sees it, gets pissy, says **** to her, ruins her mood etc. And I don't like him to begin with. He gives me looks that could kill, and is generally a dick to me when I even try to say hello, just looks at me and walks away. I really don't like him, and if this was even a hundred years ago, dude's *** would have been whooped, go Elfdude! I guess I just got pissed cause I felt like I was getting dicked over, for some douche. Which is just me being selfish, because all of us were supposed to be there for my boy, thats enlisting. She basically babysat her ex's *** last night that got drunk and threw up everywhere instead. I hate him, I hate her baby's daddy with a passion though. eh oh well, at least I'm honest with myself about my shortcomings. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
myrek Posted July 9, 2006 Report Share Posted July 9, 2006 my advice... don't waste your time. sounds ****ty but headaches now mean giant headaches later. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Balgashang Posted July 9, 2006 Author Report Share Posted July 9, 2006 Yea I know, I do feel like I'm wasting my time, but the feelings I get being with this girl are ones I have not experianced before, I'm truely in love with her, and she does have alot going on in her life right now. She's a single mother, her baby's daddy is trying to get custody of thier little girl, while she's taking him for child support. Her father is getting out of jail in September, which is another can of worms. And to top it all off, her brother, one of my best friends, and the person she is closest too, is leaving for basic, then AIT, and Iraq. She's worried alot, and before these three things came up, **** between me and her was all gravy. Now, its a bit rocky. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Celerity Posted July 9, 2006 Report Share Posted July 9, 2006 Yeah. Once these things start, they don't end. Say you end up dating her..the jealousy doesn't end..it won't ever end. Avoid and forget. It's harsh, but it really is the best thing for both of you. Take Lethereal's advice and act like you don't care. If you're lucky..soon you won't. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
myrek Posted July 9, 2006 Report Share Posted July 9, 2006 on top of that... her baby's daddy will always be her baby's daddy and will always be near Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Designated_Driver Posted July 9, 2006 Report Share Posted July 9, 2006 Not if he puts a bounty on the guy's head. No one could resist some Adeptus armor and a few CPs. Or the baby. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
elfdude Posted July 9, 2006 Report Share Posted July 9, 2006 d00d, baby is +20 to svs vs spell, how could you not want that. you have to eat it of course though... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lethereal Posted July 9, 2006 Report Share Posted July 9, 2006 After hearing the info behind her and her 'baggage', I have one word for you: RUN Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
EyeSeeU Posted July 9, 2006 Report Share Posted July 9, 2006 I would RUN aswell, and usually I am not the one to say just up and leave a situation but seriously... She has a kid that will never be yours, She has this stalker ex dude who I would have beat the piss out of sober if I heard him whispering crap in her ear after I hugged her. One other thing chill out on the drinking it saves lives. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Zrothum Posted July 10, 2006 Report Share Posted July 10, 2006 From a female point of view, I have a few things to say: 2. Drunk men suck (and are really gross). There is NOTHING more disgusting than some guy coming up to you slurring his words with that icky sour breath reeking of stale alcohol and/or cigarettes (why is it people seem to breathe on your face when their drunk?). And no guy looks hot with bleary eyes half mast from being drunk. *shudder* And to think this is the woman who married Crypticant the Lord of Alcoholic Beverages?! lol Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chayesh Posted July 10, 2006 Report Share Posted July 10, 2006 Take Lethereal's advice and act like you don't care. If you're lucky..soon you won't. I know I don't and I feel great. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Psycho Child Posted July 10, 2006 Report Share Posted July 10, 2006 Declare celibacy and enter a monastry. Chicks always dig that. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
EyeSeeU Posted July 10, 2006 Report Share Posted July 10, 2006 they tell you they like that because then after you tell them that they think your a homosexual and you would be good to go shopping with:D No pun intended its a joke people.... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Psycho Child Posted July 10, 2006 Report Share Posted July 10, 2006 And while you are shoping with them is an excellent time to point out "cute" underware and swimsuits they should try on. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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