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Hrm, going back to asking a girl if you can buy her a drink. I've only done this twice at the bars, but what I do is ask the girl if she can buy me a drink, and do it with a big smile. I've never "landed" a girl from a bar, but that wasn't my intention. Instead, I've gone to bars and talked up a girl for social interaction. I may be the antithisis(sp?) of the typical guy when it comes to sex, because I'm not looking for sex or one night stands, I'm looking for a real connection. And I can promise you that your chances of finding that at some drunken frat party or happy hour at a bar isn't good... at all.

I'd have to agree with Dey, the way to win a woman is to make her laugh. At least that's how I've done it. I keep hearing people say treat her poorly or some-such and she'll follow you around. I think that works as well, seems to work for a few of my friends, but I just never had the heart to treat someone like **** just because I could.

What we need is some women to tell us the proper way. Because come on... we're a family, of sorts, here. And we've gotta look out for each other's "needs" ;)

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Nothing wrong with looking for sex, nor is there anything wrong with not looking for it. Providing both (or more :D;)) people involved have a mutual understanding, because whilst there might be nothing wrong with looking for nothing but sex, there is something wrong with using/lying/leading someone on/treating people like ****. Providing everyone involved understands it's nothing but the one night, and everyone's happy, then...well....everyone's happy. :D

I know I'll 'grow up' out of it one day, and probably in the not-too-far future, but it's not going to be just yet.

Dey

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Dey, I didn't mean to infer that you, or anyone else, were/are/have done anything wrong when they were looking for sex. And I agree, nothing wrong with that if both parties understand that.

And as for "growing out of it", why the rush? You've got plenty of years of getting your groove on with random girls... and sheep. :)

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Hence me putting the 'growing out' in 'air quotes'. I put it like that because generally speaking, a lot of people eventually find somebody who changes them, when it comes to a point where it no longer is just about sex. ;)

Oh, and I knew you weren't saying that it was a bad thing, it was just something I felt I needed to say. I didn't want people to think I was a bad person just because I like to spend my Sunday afternoons in the farmyard, just me and the animals.

Grrr, those sheep...

Dey

EDIT: Nor do I want to come off sounding like a somebody who 'gets it' seventy times a night, every night, with tons of people all the time, because I don't. Regular enough to not have to resort to my wooly friends that often though.

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I've never gone out and deliberately looked to get laid, the situations just seemed to fall right into my lap, no pun intended. Seriously - the few times it's happened, I actually had made other plans. Well, guess what, those plans got cancelled quick.

I like to win my way into a woman's social graces by making her smile or laugh, especially by making fun of my own faults so I can get that out of the way in case this girl ever meets any of my less discreet friends. Just the other night I had a gal over at my place, we played chess and Halo 2. We were going to go upstairs for the Halo 2 but I joked that 'My room is a mess, we'll have to play down here. Clothes, books, porn everywhere.' It cracked her up, and she actually ended up telling me she had a thing for porn.

Nothing happened between her and I, but I did have a great time. I wasn't expecting anything either, though similiar situations - also unintentional - in the past have yielded results that involved much less clothing.

To add, I enjoy female company. I do not treat them like they are objects to trick into using for my pleasure, I genuinely enjoy their company, unless they're just a ****ing doorknob or super-feminist to the point of where I can't open the door for them or I'm being insulting. Those two types, I don't get along with.

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To help out Deykari a bit...

Here's a theory on 'nice guys', 'good guys', and 'a-holes'.

The nice guy has no boundaries, and bends over backwards for everyone. He's the doormat. To illustrate, I'll give an example. Say a girl calls up and says she's going out of town, and has no place to keep her German shepherd. What the nice guy will do immediately is say 'Oh, that's okay. I can take care of him,' and he's putting up with the dog for a week.

The macho a-hole will just blow her off and be like, 'Pcht, that's not my problem.' He's on the opposite of the continuum. Instead of supplicating and caring too much, he doesn't care at all.

As for the good guy, he's in between. He's willing to help out, but he's not going to just be at every command. He'll get out the phone directory and help her find a kennel.

The nice guy and the a-hole are actually similar. They're overcompensating because they have an insecurity, and they're both reaction seeking. The nice guy believes everyone has to like him, and he has to do anything in order to win people over. As for the a-hole, he emotionally reacts by being a dick.

The good guy is somewhere in the middle. It's not like a switch, it's like a continuum.

I'm not saying it's like that for everyone, but that's just how I've seen things.

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Someone might argue it in terms of power relationships.

For example, an ******* is in a power position..he makes the choices/etc regardless of empathy.

A good guy is also in a power position because he makes you happy and is attractive in heart.

A pushover is not exactly in a power position.

Rich guys (or soon-to-be) are in a power position. Politically, famous, etc same reason.

An attractive point is when you think you have some control or sway over that power. Sleep with a band member? Why..because he is famous and I'm affecting him. Sleep with a business man? Why..because he is rich and I'm affecting him (and getting some of that back). Sleep with an ***-hole? Why..because he can be manipulated and you feel like you make a serious change (turn bad boy into good boy).

That is just one theory..but..

Now, the hard part for the guys is to not get stereotyped into some role. Gelled hair, slightly out-dated yet brand (american eagle for ex.) jeans, and a a pickup will get you far with a certain kind of woman. Not for me. Cool rock band lover but not too extreme? I don't like that. I don't know about other people, but I typejudge people within seconds of their role and how close I will let them be to me. Then again, I play MUDs, studied physics, don't enjoy drinking, etc. So probably don't want to base these things off me.

Right, so all you of you want to know how to have sex easily? Make them pay you. Make them feel like you'd be exceedingly kind and patient to allow them the chance to have sex with you. Have the woman pay for that dinner, etc...it can actually be done. This works for one night stands or two year work relationships.

Most importantly: Have sex for THEM, not yourself.

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Well, just because I've had those kinds of situations before, doesn't mean that that was what I was looking for. Getting caught up in the moment, and going out looking for the moment aren't the same thing. I'd like to settle down and raise a family (in a few more years, at least?) but until then, I'm 21. As long as I don't kill myself or cripple the rest of my life with a terrible mistake I don't see what the problem is with having fun, though to be honest, the evening I had with the gal I played Chess and Halo with was actually more enjoyable than sex, and it had nothing to do with looks - she is really attractive. I just really kind of connected with her, we liked a ton of the same things and kept each other laughing the entirety of the night.

As for a stereotype... I think my dress style falls under goth. My favorite color is black. When I deck and go out to meet friends somewhere even remotely demanding some class, I wear a black collared button-down, tucked in with a black belt, black jeans or dress pants, and a pair of black boots.

Personality stereotypes? I always end up trying to help, in some way, either by solving a problem or by helping people forget the problem by making them laugh.

Edit. I AM NOT GOTHIC. I just like the color black.

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