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Heheh...tell your mother I'm sorry things didn't work out.

On a more serious note, congrats. Some small advice to help you along on your way: Every time you see her, compliment her in some small way within the first five minutes.

And if things progress more seriously, always tell her how she lights up your life and is the best thing to ever happen to you.

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Never been single longer than a few weeks and there's a few things I've learned in my dating life. Women SAY they want to be complimented, but the fact is if you do it every time you see her it becomes a daily habit and isn't that special when you do say it. Personally I'll only compliment a girl when I can tell she's spent hours getting ready for me to come pick her up.

It's also a bad thing (in most cases) to be that nice guy, you really don't wanna end up in that friend zone where she'll have that talk with you about how she thinks of you more as a brother. I always felt sorry for those guys, used to date girls back in high school where I'd hardly pay attention to her and be a prick sometimes, she'd go to the dude cry and he'd comfort her make her calm down and she'd come back to me. Must not've helped when I made fun of them for it either....yeah I was an a**hole....grew up a lot since high school but I've still not seen that much of a change in women over the years even in all the countries I've been to. Honest advice: keep it interresting. You don't have to compliment her, you don't have to do crap really as long as you can keep new things happening in the relationship so that it's not boring and keep her laughing you're golden man. Your goal on every date should be to have her having so much fun when you drop her off at home she can't sleep and thinks about you.

The only exception to these are asian women, I swear even though I've left that area I'll never date another one.

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Heheh...tell your mother I'm sorry things didn't work out.

On a more serious note, congrats. Some small advice to help you along on your way: Every time you see her, compliment her in some small way within the first five minutes.

And if things progress more seriously, always tell her how she lights up your life and is the best thing to ever happen to you.

Don't compliment them all the time. Gets annoying and they think you're needy or desparate. Woman always complain about getting a sensitive man but when they find one they complain he's not too manly. Good advice is to just keep her wanting more. Good way is to make her laugh and having a good time. They always will stay until they find something better.

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*shrug* I just must be lucky. :D

And by first five minutes, I meant of the day, not every time she comes back from the bathroom.

Well, even that can get creepy. I've seen a friend of mine scare women right off with that thing. It's all how you do it, but the first thing you have to do is get to know the girl before you start dishing out the complements. If she's not the type to take 'em, don't give them with the same zeal and frequency that you would one that would accept them.

Everyone will say, "All women respond to this." or "No, you're wrong, it's all about this angle." but in all actuality, it's all about the individual woman you're interacting with.

In the end, it's about reading your partner, learning what their body language means, and being yourself. If you're with someone and you're not being yourself, what's the point? Someday you'll have to start acting like your old self again, and why not let it be that way from the start. Sooner or later, you'll find someone.

Go for it Fiere. I'll be rooting for you to have a decent night with many laughs and many an awkward silence. ;) I didn't mean to derail your thread into this, but so it happens. Good luck, and have a good'un.

a-g

ps: As for dating women, it's quality over quantity. It doesn't matter if you've dated 40 women or 4. It's how much you've learned during the process. And I'm not talking sex here. I'm talking interaction with women on an emotional, mental, and maybe even spiritual level.

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Never been single longer than a few weeks and there's a few things I've learned in my dating life. Women SAY they want to be complimented, but the fact is if you do it every time you see her it becomes a daily habit and isn't that special when you do say it. Personally I'll only compliment a girl when I can tell she's spent hours getting ready for me to come pick her up.

It's also a bad thing (in most cases) to be that nice guy, you really don't wanna end up in that friend zone where she'll have that talk with you about how she thinks of you more as a brother. I always felt sorry for those guys, used to date girls back in high school where I'd hardly pay attention to her and be a prick sometimes, she'd go to the dude cry and he'd comfort her make her calm down and she'd come back to me. Must not've helped when I made fun of them for it either....yeah I was an a**hole....grew up a lot since high school but I've still not seen that much of a change in women over the years even in all the countries I've been to. Honest advice: keep it interresting. You don't have to compliment her, you don't have to do crap really as long as you can keep new things happening in the relationship so that it's not boring and keep her laughing you're golden man. Your goal on every date should be to have her having so much fun when you drop her off at home she can't sleep and thinks about you.

The only exception to these are asian women, I swear even though I've left that area I'll never date another one.

i disagree completely. i'm head over heels for my girlfriend and a day doesn't go by that i don't compliment her at least 3-4 times. i still see her face light up when i do, and that's what motivates me to keep doing it. in my experience, i've found that if you care enough about a girl, the you're never at a loss for words, so your compliments never get stale. i dunno, though. that's me.

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