Deykari Posted January 23, 2011 Report Share Posted January 23, 2011 I'm drunk and I just seduced a girlfriend of a good friend of mine. Please offer advice. I feel bad, but I'm still: You are affected by: gin : 5 hours I don't know how to approach the scenario. Is it bad that I have a HUGE smile on my face? Dey Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Deykari Posted January 23, 2011 Author Report Share Posted January 23, 2011 This is what it must feel like to be a trash PKer. Deyy Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Twinblades713 Posted January 23, 2011 Report Share Posted January 23, 2011 Ahh, being really happy about doing something super lame? Happens. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Imoutgoodbye Posted January 23, 2011 Report Share Posted January 23, 2011 *facepalm* You poor man. That which is done is done. I guess there's really only two questions here and that's how guilty do you feel and do you think she'll tell? If you think she'll tell, get your @$$ to him and tell him first and take whatever's coming to you. Maybe you did the guy a favor. I'd drop a girl that easily seduced by another male at the drop of a hat. No offense to any skills you may possess, Dey. However, I'd never speak to you again. If you think she'll hold up and not have any guilt over it, just forget it, especially if it would cause pain, hurt, and anger. Your punishment in this case is to live with your own guilt And those, Brother Dey, are your options. EDIT: I assume by "seduced" you mean you engaged in some form of physical sexual behavior. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Croyvern Posted January 23, 2011 Report Share Posted January 23, 2011 My advice. Do NOT marry her. Just had to throw it out there. :eek: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pali Posted January 23, 2011 Report Share Posted January 23, 2011 I'd drop a girl that easily seduced by another male at the drop of a hat. I've long been of the opinion that people's relationships would be greatly improved by keeping in mind that an individual mistake does not define the relationship. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Twinblades713 Posted January 23, 2011 Report Share Posted January 23, 2011 It's dropping someone for being human... which really narrows down your preferential selection. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nekky Posted January 23, 2011 Report Share Posted January 23, 2011 Low act, sort it out ;p Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
f0xx Posted January 23, 2011 Report Share Posted January 23, 2011 Mwhahah, that's my boy. PS. I can post your naked pictures if that will make you feel better? PPS. Gin sux man, try rum Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Atticus Posted January 23, 2011 Report Share Posted January 23, 2011 i look at it like this- and yeah, kinda did the same just the other week- is she hot? are you just there to hit it? If so- **** it, have a good time- The main thing is man, I looked at it like- its my life, I'm not going to stand by and not have the time of my life for anyone, it sounds like being an ******* at times.... But if that's what it takes to be happy. Im king *******. good luck bro Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Imoutgoodbye Posted January 23, 2011 Report Share Posted January 23, 2011 *chuckle* Before anyone says I'm "wrong" in my OPINION (note that this is opinion as everyone is free to live as they see fit) and that I've "dropped someone for being human", keep this in mind: People are separate from me. I don't often go seeking people out to form any kind of relationship, be it friendship, acquaintances, or love interests. Now, with this in mind, know it extends from me, in my personal real life, wanting people to live up to certain standards. My biggest issue with the rest of humanity is "can I trust him/her/it?". To what degree I will forgive a person depends on where they are in my relations hierarchy. Obviously I would hold my significant other to a higher standard no matter what stage of the relationship we were at in that category. However, I would not try to hold someone to a standard that I myself would not impose on myself. And if you think I'm too "selective", well, I am married, aren't I? There's many, many, many, many people in the world. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Deykari Posted January 23, 2011 Author Report Share Posted January 23, 2011 Urgh, so I am absolutely hung over as hell and feeling like a complete ****. The situation is, the girl is a good friend of mine who I've known for a couple years. She started going out with this guy about a year ago, and I met him through her when she introduced him, and we became good friends. I remember justifying it at the time whilst being drunk, because recently he cheated on her. Sober and minus the raw primitive urge, I realise it's no justification at all. So, I'm a ****. Officially. Dey Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Deykari Posted January 23, 2011 Author Report Share Posted January 23, 2011 PS. I can post your naked pictures if that will make you feel better? I can handle that, there's a video going around work of me dancing naked recorded on a mobile phone at a party. Things were 'swinging'. Any and all have seen everything there is to see now, a few pictures I can handle. Dey Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Demiterracotta Posted January 23, 2011 Report Share Posted January 23, 2011 There are criteria for things that officially "didn't happen".... Being Drunk. A close family member passing away. Being Drunk. Being in a different area code. The list is your friend. In other news, that sucks man, I got no other advice than that. You might get punched in the face, and she might hate you for doing the right thing, but at the end of the day you will feel better knowing you did the right thing. Whether that is telling your friend or whatever, just do what you think is right. And IF you tell him, try not to smirk, I've done that. It never ends well. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Twinblades713 Posted January 23, 2011 Report Share Posted January 23, 2011 Should have roofied yourself shortly after you realized you made a mistake. D: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mali Posted January 23, 2011 Report Share Posted January 23, 2011 Two consensual adults having sex = non -issue. IF you were cheating on someone, shame on you. If SHE was cheating on someone, shame on her, and you are in the clear. If it makes you feel better, british drama is only comedy to this guy in Florida This reminds me of an episode in fawlty towers... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
killalou Posted January 23, 2011 Report Share Posted January 23, 2011 Two consensual adults having sex = non -issue. IF you were cheating on someone, shame on you. If SHE was cheating on someone, shame on her, and you are in the clear. If it makes you feel better, british drama is only comedy to this guy in Florida This reminds me of an episode in fawlty towers... Why is it not shame on both of them by your logic? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
f0xx Posted January 23, 2011 Report Share Posted January 23, 2011 Shh... girls are hoes and men are pigs. Just don't tell him. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mali Posted January 23, 2011 Report Share Posted January 23, 2011 Killalou, only the cheater has guilt to bear. Look, relationships end all the time, Deykari shoudln't feel bad sleeping with other peoples girlfriends unless there is a ring on the finger. In the words of Beyonce "if you like it then you should have put a ring it." Furthermore, dey had knowledge that his jackass friend had already cheated on the girl. This is not a situation of bros before hoes, this is a situation of every man for himself, play for keeps, and hope not to catch any STDS... Seriously though, if theres no ring, theres no problem. Guilt is on the cheaters, not the cheaters accomplice. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Twinblades713 Posted January 24, 2011 Report Share Posted January 24, 2011 I helped a girl cheat once... I felt bad for a minute. If he cheated on her, he didn't give a **** anyway and there was nothing there... tbqh. Don't feel bad. Move on, everyone's good. Guys don't feel, that's what girls do! (Obligatory smily ) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Deykari Posted January 24, 2011 Author Report Share Posted January 24, 2011 I omitted a detail that adds spice to the situation. The three of us all work together. Dey Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Twinblades713 Posted January 24, 2011 Report Share Posted January 24, 2011 I omitted a detail that adds spice to the situation. The three of us all work together. Dey All I have to say to that: Heh. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mali Posted January 24, 2011 Report Share Posted January 24, 2011 She likes you... she likes your friend... no one is in it for the long term, that much is apparent. there is a term used in FL when people attack in groups... I suggest it may have relevance here. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jibber Posted January 24, 2011 Report Share Posted January 24, 2011 Not a problem in my book. Agree completely with Mali. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jibber Posted January 24, 2011 Report Share Posted January 24, 2011 I omitted a detail that adds spice to the situation. The three of us all work together. Dey Keep it out of the work place. If you're going to confront him, do it outside of work. It's not worth losing your job over some stray punch your friend throws at you for what you did. Let's hope he's mature enough to keep personal stuff out of business stuff, too! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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